Lets start from face-to-face and other means of outside communication.
Gossip:
Believe it or not, majority of us can both fall into categories for "victims" and "culprits". At some point in our lives, we have either be called/labelled not-so-good stuffs or even become the gossip monger ourselves. No, I don't mean for it to stop immediately (because that will never happen). But... wouldn't our lives be more beautiful if everyone tries their best to understand one's sorrows and just let one live freely? Moreover, we have to know that each and everyone of us has flaws as little as being unaware of our expressions ect. We can go to them personally and tell them nicely if we are extremely discouraged by their acts. If they heck care, then leave it, we need not bring that person down by purposely framing them. They might have their own reasons on how they behave. Sadly, we can't change the fact that people, especially girls, will seldom gossip about someone at any point of time. Leave it be, some might look that in an optimistic way, saying it is just for 'leisure' and things to do when their just hanging out with good friends. However, for me...I wouldn't entirely agree to that, probably because I can be a sensitive person that tries to stay neutral without hurting any lady's feelings. I believe there will be someone out there staying on the same boat as me.
Insecurities:
Many get insecure and unsatisfied with the way their features, they way they behave/act and even when they talk. I was once part of the whole. I get overly sensitive with how others see me as, whether they will dislike me for who I am. First off, I was in the primary school's sport's club that were designated for slightly overweight students. Yes I was once of them, if you didn't know. I felt like there was no hope for me and that I was unhealthy, fat and stuffs like that. Friends and relatives often tease me for that. (I know its not something serious, but no matter how hard I tried to stop them, they won't listen). Secondly, due to the earlier gossip cases in my life, I felt the need to stay curled up inside a shell. I was not ready to take risks. My self-esteem was considerably on its lowest. I feel embarrassed for just being me, as quiet and slightly introverted as I was in school, where people tends to call me "emo" or "weird" or whatsoever.
It takes time to heal. I did not actually recover from the low self-esteem immediately. However, as time passes gradually, I started looking up for more inspirational videos and discussions shared by successors and ordinary people leading a brilliant life. I slowly embraced through my weaknesses and accept things and situations as they were. And change for the better if need to. Weaknesses are another part of everyone's lives, it is something that shaped this round world to make it more interesting.Obviously I wouldn't say I am entirely fine now, I have a lots of things still waiting for me to achieve ahead. I just want to say...there is hope, if you eat well, live well...what's there more to complain about? Remember... its not just weaknesses we have, we still have strengths! Learn to be gentle on ourselves!(You could ask me personally for links/sources I get self-help and motivation from).
Bam! Commenting negativity on things; drama:
THIS, is something I would like to emphasize on especially. Stepping upon various websites, channels, videos and forums. I often see negative remarks/comments from people. It revolves hurting each other's feelings. Not nice at all. Somehow, it is saddening to see females/women calling others unwanted names and judgement and stereotypes being labelled on top of one's head. We are girls after all, we share the same feelings and emotions sometimes, why are we doing something so juvenile? Instead of criticizing one another, why not learn to spare a thought for them and put words in a good way?
I stumbled upon a video from one of my favorite makeup/fashion beauty guru: Dulce Candy and the video is something very relatable to my last point. So here it goes...
Insecurities:
Many get insecure and unsatisfied with the way their features, they way they behave/act and even when they talk. I was once part of the whole. I get overly sensitive with how others see me as, whether they will dislike me for who I am. First off, I was in the primary school's sport's club that were designated for slightly overweight students. Yes I was once of them, if you didn't know. I felt like there was no hope for me and that I was unhealthy, fat and stuffs like that. Friends and relatives often tease me for that. (I know its not something serious, but no matter how hard I tried to stop them, they won't listen). Secondly, due to the earlier gossip cases in my life, I felt the need to stay curled up inside a shell. I was not ready to take risks. My self-esteem was considerably on its lowest. I feel embarrassed for just being me, as quiet and slightly introverted as I was in school, where people tends to call me "emo" or "weird" or whatsoever.
It takes time to heal. I did not actually recover from the low self-esteem immediately. However, as time passes gradually, I started looking up for more inspirational videos and discussions shared by successors and ordinary people leading a brilliant life. I slowly embraced through my weaknesses and accept things and situations as they were. And change for the better if need to. Weaknesses are another part of everyone's lives, it is something that shaped this round world to make it more interesting.Obviously I wouldn't say I am entirely fine now, I have a lots of things still waiting for me to achieve ahead. I just want to say...there is hope, if you eat well, live well...what's there more to complain about? Remember... its not just weaknesses we have, we still have strengths! Learn to be gentle on ourselves!(You could ask me personally for links/sources I get self-help and motivation from).
Bam! Commenting negativity on things; drama:
THIS, is something I would like to emphasize on especially. Stepping upon various websites, channels, videos and forums. I often see negative remarks/comments from people. It revolves hurting each other's feelings. Not nice at all. Somehow, it is saddening to see females/women calling others unwanted names and judgement and stereotypes being labelled on top of one's head. We are girls after all, we share the same feelings and emotions sometimes, why are we doing something so juvenile? Instead of criticizing one another, why not learn to spare a thought for them and put words in a good way?
I stumbled upon a video from one of my favorite makeup/fashion beauty guru: Dulce Candy and the video is something very relatable to my last point. So here it goes...
"This and that, who or what is fake!":
You know what is faking? Hypocrites often do that. Simply saying: Person A compliments a friend, but then turns to person B to criticize that friend. Deceiving is funny (in a bad way, of course).
Anyway, that's not my actual point. I would want to mention about makeup and plastic surgery. Majority call that being fake. I wouldn't go with majority though. I stand on my own grounds; a different way of thinking.I think that if you feel 10x better putting something else on your face and modifying it, then well...so be it. After all, its PART OF YOUR FACE. Makeup, for example, is one artistic form of expression that can be showcased on a lady's head and body. They have the power to control themselves. Same goes to plastic surgery, if their happy to do it still after much consideration, then...whats the matter. Why the hell do I often see some people being so fussed up over other's decisions? I know you care, but its their face and body, why so serious?
Mmmhmm... I guess this post should be cut out from here, in order to prevent "overflooding" weekekeke! I'm speaking my few cents worth, my point of view. You might not agree with some factors, but that's okay!
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