A number of things people misunderstand

Hey once again!! School has been terrible and yet joyful lately. Yes it has been up and down, hash-tagging life of a high school student. :D

I broke down somehow last week, thinking of stupid things. But, its all fine now. I mean, its alright to share at least this bit with y'all.

And today was a hectic day, one moment I feel cold and shivers, the next I feel warm inside. No, I am not sick. It might be because I haven't eaten anything since morning till late 6++. Break record for a day. And I can totally relate to people who experiences hunger for days.

I understand now, finally...

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Okay, I'm back with another "should-be-made-a-video but neh...a blogpost for me" post. Wooh! That was a mouthful huh. Needless to say, today's topic is already reflected on the post title itself. At some point in our lives, we get heavily accused/misunderstood by certain groups of people. Not that we can help it either, because that's how THEY FEEL towards us and changing their opinions require a whole lot of time (if you know...you really have to). But I believe if that person really mean something to us, we will try our best to explain and sort this out; get to know each other more.

Hehehehe! I hope this post would somehow lighten down some people's tensed up mood. Here are the list of things I want to explain about (its nice to see some relating to it because humans obviously do share similarities). Side note: if I use words like "others" or '"people", they are honestly not saying all.

Ps. some parts might seem a bit like ranting.


1) Nice people and their kindness.
Sometimes, others make assumptions, thinking nice people are not being genuine, or want to ask a favor indirectly. Or that he/she lacks standing up for him/herself. Overall, they see the need of being nice more to a weakness than a strength. Hey, being nice for me, personally, do help tons in making me positive and all. And yes, when I say 'nice', I don't mean we have to be that too much (like damn!), and put our guards down. And let everyone take advantage of us. No!! I mean it in a way that your heart is big and mature enough to forgive and accept someone's flaws slowly.

credits: http://www.searchquotes.com/search/Stop_Being_Too_Nice/

2) When someone acts real quiet.
When someone is staying at a corner, acting quiet and eyes fixed on something.. I'm pretty sure he/she thinking about life; or what we call soul-searching. Don't misunderstand those people from being sad, angry or even depressed. How do we differentiate then (if you care anyway)? ASK! BUT don't ask in such a way that you're guaranteeing the person to admit that he/she is feeling negative within, because really they might not be how you feel towards them. I get irritated when people make assumptions like this. Or worse still, if I get labelled stuffs like 'emo'. I mean, stereotyping and judging much?! And do you even know what exactly being "emo" means? Uh huh I will write more on 4).

credits: http://www.shannonmdeitz.com/just-show-up-dont-assume-day-21

AGREE WITH THE IMAGE LOTSA!

3) Facial expressions
AHA! This, is something fairly good to bring up on this topic. Because, facial expressions are also a reason many get misunderstood. We individuals have a normal expression to show, mine is a "serious" face. How about yours? I'm sure some people will have a show-no-expression face as a "angry looking","grudge holding", "sad" ...even "playboy( if you count it)" etc.   See? Get to know the person well, before you come to a conclusion of how he/she is actually feeling inside. Don't be that person to analyse things or behaviors very easily, because it will never get you anywhere. Just lies and plain lies make up from the mind.

credits: http://www.japanrealm.com/the-many-faces-of-texting-emoticons/

4) Stereotypes
This is one common thing most do yeah? Stereotyping people. No, not race, culture or even religion. But actions, outer-appearances and personalities wise. We have many groups such as hipsters, gansta, geeky/dorky people, gamer, charismatic (popular) people, emos, goths and so forth.... there are just soooo many type of people with unique styles.

But unfortunately...

Some people tends to misread and misunderstand certain behaviors and intentions of people. Like FOR EXAMPLE, I've seen an emo-style YouTuber ranting out and standing for what she believes. Though being serious, angry and all... I feel her because well... I was probably called or labelled "emo" when I was much younger (perhaps I will make a separate post on it about some things about my childhood). I still am one unstereotypical emo of any sorts (yeah confessing because most probably see me as outgoing and all) but that doesn't prove y'all to just know the stereotype "emos" in such a way that they cut, eat pills, wants to stay alone forever, or worse...seeking attention and weak. Haha hahaha! What dear one? You follow the crowd? I hope not, cuz' we're all special people. (Okay my seriousness is brewing up).

Have you checked out more about the true definition of "emo"? If you haven't, here are some written by certain people...

.I like the part whereby they wrote about "deep, quiet and sensitive people". I find that people who thinks a lot about life: deep thinkers, are often misunderstood as emos that are suffering and all. In fact, no we are not. We are just there to understand more about humanity, how they react to things and find a reason to live everyday (positive ones): personality wise.

. Another background about emos are:
from the YouTuber I mentioned earlier... she lost three friends (from suicide), I try my best to understand her (although I know it is pretty hard especially if you're not that person yourself and don't exactly know how that person feels) ... but really, THREE close friends!! One by one. You never understand a loss of someone unless you're that person. It takes a hell lot of time to get stronger again from deep wounds, that's what I want to say. 

Summing up, I am absolutely sure other "stereoptypes" have their own way of thinking, PAST/BACKGROUNDS, and stories too. So don't be too quick to judge because we each have a problem. Nobody lives tens and tens of year problem-free, I mean... have you seen one like that? When I say judge, I mean going against any stereotypes with bullying, teasing and all. They are freaking not cool. You achieve nothing positive from that.

Okay before it gets super long, I will end off here for now.

Side note: this post was researched over and over, observed carefully, read pretty much from books, watched videos and questioned people before everything was spoke by me. Hehehehe what! XD

All the best!
-C P