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Another #HappinessCP topic before I go off to somewhere for a few weeks (*hint hint*). I will write more about it once I come back from my trip. I need that really nice~ fresh sight and air, according to my last thoughts. Hehehe yes I am traveling twice this month, to different countries. It just happened to be that way.
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Okay... I am hereby writing your another long awaited self-confidence and self-love (if that counts) post.
This is dedicated to e-v-e-r-y-o-n-e, no exceptions. Why? Because there are times we all have people who do not like us for who we are...or that we do not like others. Either way, I want to elaborate on handling such cases in a smarter manner. With utmost sincerity. This is a similar post to the one on Judgement here, except that this one is the other way round; handling those negative aspects of people.
Before I proceed on by sharing my tips, I would like to say that in life, NOT EVERYONE WILL AGREE WITH WHAT WE DO. In another words, not everyone will have the same taste and liking as us. SO, DO NOT EXPECT EVERY SINGLE SOUL TO LIKE US FOR WHO WE TRULY ARE. Whatever we do, there will always be critics going on. They might be there to make or break us. Whichever the case is, we do not have to care about what EVERYONE out there has to say. Well..unless the critique they gave is sort of true and we can hence, change for the better. You can read about my T&O post about Criticism here (if you haven't).
--Switching to first person recount:--
Yeah buddies! Now is the time to share how I do not care what others say. Thought processes and actions wise.
"But Cal...you received dislikes before?"
Yeah...I totally heard gossips shooting at me while I was younger. "Cal is weird.. Don't friend her, she is freaking quiet etc etc." But it is alright now, they gradually died down. And thank you for the experiences! I learned from them y'know. To the people who found me different, I appreciate you in my life, because you guys taught me lessons nonetheless.
Tip 1: SMILE it off yo!
Ever heard of "smiling is the most powerful weapon of all time" and the "world's universal language (okay maybe next to mathematics)"? It is technically true because in terms of psychology, people who gives out a smile can make their haters hurt more.
Haters be like "what?! why is this girl still standing and smiling despite the amount of hate she received." That puzzled and questionable look, that's the objective.
Whether it is real or fake, smiling will eventually make me come upon this realization: it is not so bad as it seems, or things are simply not the best at the moment. But trust me, things do get better...and I do see the light once again. There is a rainbow after the rain. When hitting rock bottom, the only way left is to go up ^! Lets just say... to the haters in school: I will not see them forever, it is temporary, who knows they might even forget about me when everyone grows older.
It is best to smile and shake it off sometimes.
Tip 2: When smiling itself don't work, add a "laugh it off ".
Haters and their hate vibes cannot stop one from being positive and cheerful as a whole. Only I, myself has the permission to feel happy or sad.
The old Sta would be like "Urgh, why are those people hating on me at first glance, what did I do and where did I ever go wrong?!"
Guess what? People who hate others for no reason tends to find fault easily. They are the insecure ones that has a pretty low self-esteem. Hence, I try my freaking best to understand the fact and move on. Smile, laugh it off, whatever.
Speaking of which, it is funny how some people actually take their precious time to hate. Sure, their past (hurts and doubts) defines who they are today, but they can choose to compliment someone instead of hurting that being right. That make both parties happy, not bringing some kiddish war or unrest.
But if someone still continues hating... Damn, hahahahah what the heck is that for, pal? Don't grow some wrinkles because of hating. It leads to nowhere either. >_<
When I see people wasting their time, DISLIKING. I cannot help myself but laugh out loud. I mean, there is way more things to focus on besides throwing daggers at others.
Tip 3: "You are not alone!!" Because we are all in this together.
Yes, I know it sucks to get hated on. But...have everyone ever considered that the haters themselves might have their own group of haters as well? Mmhmm funny yeah? No one is let scot free. No one is perfect. From here, I conclude that we have all been victims of someone's lame conversation before. Earth is round, so are people.
Tip 4: Haters are not entirely happy people. They face karma too! Don't let them ruin you, together with their unhappiness.
When they spread enough awful remarks, you know that they are haters being haters, appearing "strong" and all. But no. Deep down, they are just like ordinary people... or even worse, they are weak. They use verbal abuse as a form of strength to fight at people (whom most likely might appear as threatening to them). If I were to get hated on for that reason, I will sympathize with my haters. At least don't be a coward behind one's back, eh?
Anyways, karma is there. Every being will pay off its debts as time comes. As we all know, hating is tiring. I would love to see how much hate one could give to someone else. Till death? But really, do humans really want to bring this burden until then?
Tip 5: It will never last. Haters, well...let them be haters.
Imagining my own deathbed... I would totally forget about how someone hated me so badly. I mean, he/she hates - that's his/her own bloody problem. Not mine. Period.
Haters have difficulty controlling their emotions, hence it will not be a surprise if they go about bringing down others around them.
Tip 6: Treat haters back with kindness.
A sidekick next to Tip 1: Smiling huh. If they insist on using unpleasant words at me, ha! I will use back the kindness. I am not my haters. Therefore, I like staying true to the inner me, which is: to treat back nicely.
"Hey, are you alright?"
See what else they can do there.
Tip 7: Forgive. Forgive. Forgive. Don't let them get the worst out of you.
I do not want things to get any rougher. So whats left inside me is the hardest action of all time --- Ta-da...Forgiveness!
Yeah others can be mean, but we have the power to not let their meanness get the hang out if it. If we are strong enough, we forgive. Not easy once again, I know. Forgiveness is not a form of weakness, it is the strength that requires a humongous amount of effort. Only then can I fully let go, and accept things.
Tip 8: Fight/not fight back, its your choice!
For this particular tip, I would let my readers decide. Due to us having different personalities, we attempt to handle things differently.
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Yes sire! I want to end off my post here kekekeke. I hope this is like a comic relief or something for some of y'all. ^o^
Good day ahead!
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