T&O: criticism and judgement (part ii.)

-A continuation from my previous post- 

Judgement;

Definition - 1) the ability to make considered decisions or come to sensible conclusions.                   2) an opinion or conclusion.

What I want to focus and elaborate on will be number 2. Not only opinions and conclusion itself, but BAD judgement aka gossip.

In society, people always have this tendency to gossip/judge us. We cannot help to keep their trap shut anyway, its their mouth after all. I guess...knowing or unknowingly, everyone had been both a culprit and victim of judgement and gossip. If people will to make bad judgement to someone to the point that they are affecting them by hurting them, they should be more sensible to stop. Or are they just too insensible to know that their words are hurting others? Maybe. This will be somehow be related to "verbal bullying". My actual thoughts about it.

Some or even MOST people, likes to pick on others who are totally "different" from them, without putting themselves in that person's shoes, he/she will attempt to make awful remarks about them, causing them to lose their self-esteem and confidence entirely. Why do they do that? A few reasons. One would be because they had once or currently been a victim themselves too. Another would be because of their past...what they experienced and been through. The past shaped the way we behaved now. I agree to that. I kind of set sympathy on verbal bullies who have a bad past, maybe that is the reason why they are being so mean now. I think they might need some help themselves. If you are a strong person, you will learn to forgive them upon seeing the love they don't receive as much as you does. (its hard, very very hard but at least...lets TRY to do that! Ps. reminder to self too.)

If you are verbal bullying too much, try to lessen it gradually. After all, what more does it do other then hurting someone else's feelings. You gain nothing other than the label of being called a "coward" who let people see your "power" by saying negative remarks. 

How do these negative remarks came about too? I guess why gossipers gossip will be probably because they are being jealous of people who achieve better than them, thinks they have an higher IQ, feels like they have more talents or just because of their behaviour and attitude which they cannot seem to accept and find them annoying. (which is an immature thing to do actually). Piles of these added on will make a person full of hatred plus greed, destroying the person slowly. 

What if you are a victim now or before? Well, let me tell you the same thing... You are worthy, special and lovable. Just because someone judged you, that doesn't mean you are ugly, undeserving for the life you have and untalented. The fact is, they are just jealous of the personality your have, or the way unhappiness is overwhelming them within. Remember... things like gossip and bullying are temporary, you don't have to care too much about them because their hurtful remarks are just some bullets missing your heart. Focus more on the positive side then to mourn over your negative ones. We always forget the last point very easily. See how funny human nature can be? Those thoughts, words and actions... All the above I have mentioned? Well, I am trying to live by those principles too! It takes time I know, to set a positive mindset. Haters only see your bad, delusional side anyways, unless they see your strength...that's a different case. It is just another illusion they made out of you. 

In a nutshell, you can choose to be happy or sad. Only YOU can make those decisions. Enjoy life! 

Loves, CP's owner.