At some points in our lives, we will eventually get criticised or judged due to certain weaknesses and others outlook toward us. Believe it or not, whether its real or fake, people will still be opening their mouths on us. There is quite a difference between criticism and judgement so I plan to separate them to further elaborate on each meaning. Fyi, this things are what I learnt for the past few years in my life. I experienced them before and felt so worthless. But I guess I managed to overcome it.
Criticism;
Definition - the expression of disapproval of someone or something on the basis of perceived faults or mistakes. Something sometimes those faults and mistakes can be improved or changed to be better.
Many a time, people tend to misinterpret criticism for "not being talented/loved/inspired enough. The result? People have this negative mindset to quit on that particular thing their doing just because they received not-so-good remarks from their teachers, instructors, bosses and even colleagues/mates. They find themselves not being qualified to be in the position/role their given, which causes them to gather negative thoughts inside on being stupid, worthless and not-good-enough. How about the others? Hmm...I guess their a little more "thick-skin" or what you call... "stubborn" to the fact that they think their doing everything right while others' necessary remarks does not matter anymore.
Of course, I am not implying that "oh... when someone criticize you, you should immediately change" and if you don't, people will find you being as stubborn as an ox. Not so fast, y'all! Do some soul-searching... if you thought thrice about not changing, and finds what you are currently doing worthy and beneficial, and that you feel happy without changing, go ahead and follow your instinct! Those criticism might then be due to the fact that others have a different way of thinking then you do, and that they care way too much for you in order to not let you get hurt or face failure. Be more understanding! After all, our human DNA is made up of 99.9% similarity, the remaining is how we view things and ect.
On the other hand, if you think that a criticism directed at you should be accepted, and that the person is telling you for your own good and improvement, then change for the better! Ask where you think you go wrong and stop repeating the same mistakes again. If you are having a hard time doing it yourself, I guess everyone could ask a person of a higher authority for some help. Remember...nobody is born perfect! Everyone has the right to make mistakes...a successor is not born within one day, it takes a lot of hard work, determination and perseverance to become one.
Just because you got criticized, doesn't mean its the end of your world, for my case...an instructor told me that I was aggressive and pitchy while singing a certain song. I could choose to give up...or continue giving my best. Well, I came into my senses somehow, to this realization of each of us having flaws and not let our ego take over us.
wow girl, i like this statement. Cuz I also hve ever been criticised. hmph. Sometimes, i hate that.
ReplyDeleteThanks! I guess everyone has been criticized before. For me, I might not be willing to accept it at first. However, we might consider looking toward the positive side, right? :)
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